User blog comment:Necator7/Open Heart, Book 1/2 - Vote of Confidence/@comment-34425588-20191217055632

A little bird reached me the other night and told me about you, and... I want to help. I'm still wrapping my head of how to make a clear picture for you, so you can realize that there's hope at the end of it. "The night is always darker before the sunrise".

I won't sugar-coated to you dear... There aren't words enough to express how sad I feel for all you're going through. They cannot express the warm of a comforting hug that speaks "everything will be alright" either, but then again... I have something that perhaps could help you on this dark moment and that's experience. As our dear Jadelady said, we have a lot in common dear, and hopefully you can find solace on my resolution for this kind of conflict.

If you can indulge me, let me talk about a little of my background before going forward…

My mother and father they… Left me with my grandparents who make the best they can to raise me. I got a lot of bulling during school for being “ugly” and for my sexual orientation. When I was nine-years old, I got a beating so bad that my grandmother do the best that a retired police instructor can do: Train their granddaughter. She spend the next ten years teaching me how to brawl, how to escape, how to use every advantage I could get on my disposition. Light weapons training came when I got older. Enough said, the next guy who tried to push me ended up with something broken, and not only their ego. When I turned sixteen, the “puberty” hit me and I got a massive change… Every single soul of that school was looking to be with me. I thought it was a good thing, but nope, my bulling simply became harassment and somehow both of them bundled during my college years. For my career, being pretty helps but I still think is like a course sometimes. People just seems unable to leave alone. I studied journalism and while my professors told me that I would fail, that being pretty is not enough, I was the student with the higher prestige of my graduation. During my speech I told to those people: “I did it idiots, and I didn’t had to hand my ass to any of you!” which created some kind of controversy around me… Always the troublemaker! You see, I was born on Spain. But my grandparents moved to non-disclosed country on South America when I was barely one year-old. Journalism there is almost a form of espionage, including the risks. The details will came later, but enough to say: Somebody was looking for my life. So I got a chance to run to the U.S. and start anew… Yeah, right. At least on my homeland people understand the meaning of “No” while here they will pursue me ‘til the end of the freaking world… But I don’t allow them. I fight against them and I don’t let myself to be dragged to the gossiping and BS they say about me. The situation that you mention? I been there over, and over, and over again. Different faces, the same situation. It gets easier and now I can deal with it without losing my sleep. To be like that, I had to put aside my own heart and make me kind of… Evil. It worked for a time, people scare to be near a sadistic chic like me. But I ended up alone, and I… I discover Choices by an add, and by extension, this community. The people here saved me from myself. To do something that I would regret. I’m on debt with the people here… My family. There’s nothing I couldn’t do for them, and yeap, that includes you my dear! From a good old-fashioned advice, to do something less “ethic” if the need demands it. You’re family, and I watch for my family.

So… You need all the help you can get and I’m here to provide. I was reading all the comments until now and I have a few basic tips for you that can get you almost unscratched from your predicament dear. They had worked for me for the last six years on the journal and I hope you can use them as you see fit. Of course, we can strategize a little about very specific situations but that will be later, yes? For now, this should suffice.

Your Body, Mind, Soul: Be in order.

The first battle of every war always starts with the same enemy: Ourselves. Our fears, our hate, our grief and pain… Every part of us will be turned against us, and sadly this a battle that won’t end until the final resolution of the conflict. Your body would get sore, your mind will refuse to stop, and your soul will be shattered, just as the people who’s going against you is expecting… Don’t. The moment you feel that you’re hopeless, then it might be too late my dear, and I don’t want that for you. Actually, the opposite. True, your problem is quite a big deal but that doesn’t means that the world had stopped and you shouldn’t let your live be stopped neither. Before going forward, take a day, or two, or week. The time you need to say: “I’m ready to do this!” and go forward with it… And then, stop. Your mind doesn’t have to think about this issue the whole time. I know, is hard but you need to try. Get some sleep (as our dear Jadelady say to me almost every night), get the comfort of the people you love and make you feel loved, protected, listened (yes Circy, that comes for you Motherbear!), do your hobbies, allow your thoughts to drift and embrace a little of fantasy for a while… But not too much, just enough to be ready for the next assault. Those little rests are essential to be ready at the next engagement… And trust me, there’s plenty of them ahead. You won’t and you cannot archive the final peace until the resolution of this situation, but listen to yourself and take care of you on a regular basis. You’re a warrior, a fighter on an epic crusade… Even heroes deserve a little rest once in a while, don’t you think? For that and more, we are around for you.

Your Enemies: Know them better that you know yourself.

Time to play smart. You know who is behind the scheme against you. You know the ones who are looking for your downfall… Good. That’s not enough. You need more, always more. They might think that they have you cornered, and they should be kept thinking that. They will be watching your movements and you need to do the same. Try to predict their next course of action and be ready for it. Perhaps they won’t go that way but at least you got can’t be flanked from there. On some moments you could use their same game against them, just don’t let them know until is too late… I’m not saying you should resort to their very same tactics. What’s the point? You won’t be better than them if you do, but that doesn’t mean you will let slip a good opportunity to win once and for all. Be vigilant, because they’re always looking. Whatever stuff they try to bring against you, don’t let them to get you that way. If they say that you’re “crazy” or something, then act entirely normal. Prove them wrong of their accusation against you and show them how baseless they are, and the best way you can do that is by knowing them. Take your time to review that people, do a mental list. Sometimes critical information about them got slipped by accident and we just don’t know.

Friend or Enemy? Mind your words either way.

I hope you can pick this advice and use it the best way you can: Friend or enemy, be extremely careful of what you say about other people. Especially about your enemies. Let me put it this way... When I was fresh new on the journal, there was a not-so-friendly girl who used to pick a lot of fights with me. Mostly because I became the center of the attention and she lose that spot. I didn't shut up myself and we wage a little catty-war for a while. Our superiors noticed our bad behavior and we were reprimanded. When I was giving my statement of the whole "conflict" to the director I was very vocal, straight and honest about what she was doing. I was aiming to get her out of my way so I can concentrate on my work... It didn't worked as it was expected. The case was dismissed and our fighting was considered "childish". I was angry by that income. That girl was transferred, but a few years later, I had the chance to speak to her about that whole matter. It was a nice talk. I said to her exactly the same what I said to the director and she did the same. Comparing our words, it was very obvious: "Is not a matter of work, just old grudges and misunderstandings". If my declaration was different, more objective about ethics and work, and less about "that girls is a toxic b#&*!" and all of that, perhaps the balance would had tipped on my favor. Since that, I take my time to think my words before speak, considering that everything that I will say can make little impact, or do an avalanche...And I could end victorious or under a pile of my own garbage.

Information and Facts: The blueprint of your case.

On every conflict there’s always a sole key to end up everything and that’s the true. However, the true tends to come on a “raw” state, and as it is it cannot be used properly. For that, we need to make a more “refined” true. How we’re going to do that? We need to make you a good case. You need a good story, consonant with your working ethics, and everything that make people think that you’re the next great thing for humanity since the chocolate, the internet, and the kitties. Is an extremely long work, if not endless. Your story needs constant updates to keep you on edge about the next thing your enemies may try against you. If they say that the color Blue is forbidden, then you will have a closet full of Red dresses. Articulate the facts about your story and try to make it shorter… Bigger instances doesn’t like to read, if you know what I mean. Get your hands on every piece of intel. Useful or not, can be otherwise later. Is ill-advised to use information to say “My boss sucks!” and stuff like that, because it generates a negative reaction on whoever is going to see your case. Don’t show any grudges and let a good argument do his work. If done correctly, it will be like the sun: Huge, bright, annoying to some people, and you cannot hide from it.

Corruption: The Country Club for the bad people.

If I told you that your side of the world is the only place where powerful people shake their hands and rub their backs with each other is in your coubtry, then… That would be the lie of the century. The practice where people who know each other play different games as “The Favorites”, “Give me something for the good old times” and my fave which is “Make that poor girl suffer” is fairly common around the whole world and we cannot get rid of it. Since whose practices (many others) block the correct application of justice… Yeap, that’s a form of corruption. Simple and easy. Gaining allies on the circles for people like them is something extremely difficult and I don’t encourage that either. They could be driving you to a trap for all that we know. No matter how hard the fight might be, how unfair the whole situation may look, whatever happens you will not do anything that can be looked as suspicious, wrong, or anything that can jeopardize your whole standing. It’s an unnecessary risk, and while it takes way longer, stick to the regular channels until the last consequence. I saw many cases with so many unfair rules that suddenly take the right turn and everything got solved quite quickly! The other idiots are looking to play outside the rules then you could just watch from the sidelines or even lure them out, but you won’t do anything questionable. I know you won’t do that but desperation is quite a motivator these days. Don’t take justice by your hand or you could get corrupted too.

The Third Party: Another voice in the matter.

For what I know, you’re already knocking the doors on some higher instances dear, and I’m so glad about it. However, is truly necessary that you meet their demands and standards so you can get them on your side. In case a higher instance fails, then you should go to another on the same level, and if that fails too, the now’s the time to go to an even higher instance. The world is full of evil and stupid people but there’s some good around people around there… Somewhere. Is a matter to keep looking. Your interest is to found them among those who can help you on this whole situation. Try to play by their rules and get that “third voice” at your side, yes? You will need to consolidate your allies, and if they’re powerful enough, you can take more people for your cause… Is a win-win situation!

Media Warfare: Watch for your public image… And the one of your enemies.

I know how weird this advice is going to sound, but there’s a thing that you need to do: Try to not drop any more garbage on your enemies’ sides, publicly speaking. For me, is quite evident that one of the reasons of why those fellas are looking to take you down is because the damage that you had caused to their public image. “That one is damaging our institution. We need to stop her by all means!” must think that people about you. I know, I been on that batch before, and wasn’t pretty. I draw too much attention, too much heat. I gain new enemies that I didn’t knew I had and some friendlies on my side just left me alone. Coming to a journal? I wouldn’t do that I don’t have anything solid or strong enough to be unquestioned by third parties. If you’re going to involve the media on that kind of thing, then you don’t simple ammo. You need to go nuclear. You know that saying: “There’s not such a thing a bad press. It’s just press”? Let me tell you… That’s a lie. There’s bad press and is aiming to them, but for what I can read isn’t solid enough… But fear not! We can get that solved quite easy, we just need to play our cards right. True, the damage to those guys is already done. The priority right now is about you and how to make people to like you!... Yes, that’s another weird advice coming for a girl who don’t want to be related to anybody.

Fight or Run? Always choose to Survive.

It’s fairly evident that so many people had messed up your life, and… I can relate to it. It’s one of the many reasons why I left my homeland and came to the U.S. where apparently justice works better… Not entirely good, but at least I can still work and I’m not being chased anymore. Who knows what could been of me if I had choose to stay? Probably I would be rotting on some unmarked prison cell, or I would be dead in the best-case-scenario. Now then, I may ask and you should consider: “Fight or Run?” “Which of them is the best choice and why?” – You should ask that to yourself dear. Cleaning your name is important, but I can tell you something from experience: Sometimes it gets a lot dirtier before it can be truly clean. I know that is a weird advice coming from a girl who had spent her entire life waging all kinds of wars. You should now that there will be always somebody who would hate you, somebody who just want you down for so many reasons. The envy to take what you have or to simply wanting to you don’t have it anymore. Or something more trivial, like… Nothing. They are bad people. Period. Those bastards are the worst ones and you need to be extremely careful about them. In any case, your priority right now is yourself dear. More specifically your career, your public image. I got a few tips about that if you want to listen them. I won’t lie if I tell you that I’m now concerned about your odds of survival, and that makes me real sad.

Victory: What means for you? And what are’ you ready to sacrifice?

Lastly my dear, there’s a thing I want to know about you… Winning this whole thing, what means for you? Is that important? What will change if justice is served tomorrow? If the reasons are good enough, then you will embrace those ideas with all your conviction. The goal will be the only thing you will see, your only way and your only hope. Every people most believe on something to succeed on what they do, and yes dear, I believe in you, and I want you to believe in yourself. That you will do what it takes to win this. Think about that good, warming peace for your soul, that smile from the heart that says “I did it!” and we will be all celebrating with you when that happens… Hell, I’m going to start a party on this community when you got victorious, yes? Just bring them down and take me that victory, and we will celebrate like there’s no tomorrow for us, but for you?... For you will be a bright beginning.

Well… I think this is a good start, for now. But we need to keep watch so many stuff at the same time. Don’t be scared dear, me and the girls are here and we’re not leaving. Nope! You will win this, even if I got to burn the houses of all the people who had done you any harm… Oh, we can take their families as hostages! My GF is a Detective on the Special Homicides Unit of the MDPD. She knows a few things of how to hide bodies… Yeah, that can come handy later. Before you mention it, it is my finest pleasure to lend you a hand in anything and all that you might need dear. I don’t need an actual payment for my services, but… If you feel generous, you can share a few pics about your kitty! My friends here and I have a little obsession with those fluffy angels. Cannot live without them. Or we can share a match on a game one of these days. My GF is kind of enraptured on Modern Warfare right now… Or we can talk about it. I also assist modders communities sometimes when they cannot piece together their lore. The Elder Scrolls community on Nexus is very good… And those fellas are crazy!

See ya later dear, and I think is not necessary to tell you… You have my confidence, my support, my experience, and all that you could need. Just give me a call.

PD: Did you have any Discord dear? If not, you should get it. I’m easier to contact that way and is easier for communications.