Thread:MondlichtPanda/@comment-37484301-20190924025012/@comment-3452092-20191017191841

This is pretty out in the open. If we were actually talking about you behind your back in would not be in a place were anyone could read it and join in the conversation.

Also, I agree with Aisha and MC being 100% in the wrong in that conversation that were having, especially Aisha, since the MC was just reacting to something she probably hadn't considered much while Aisha had formed this opinion over time. No one should ever be told that they can't be choosy enough with who they want to date that they won't even consider dating someone even if that someone fulfils some of their dating requirements. If I wanted to say I will never date anyone who doesn't have red hair due to the fact that I absolutely love red hair and want my dad's redhead genes to make an appearance in future generations, then I can stick to that (I don't say that, but if I did I have that right). In that scenario if you have a hair color other than red and you wanted to date me. . . that's on you. You have to convince me that I should change my mind by being my friend first and never being creepy about being interested in me despite my not being interested in you. And ultimately if I still say no, you have to accept that.

If you are so choosy that you narrow the field down to people who aren't interested in you, then that's okay. Not dating is an option. I think most people agree that you should be forced to date someone if you don't want to. Where the argument seems to come is that there is division on whether or not you should be forced to consider someone as someone you are interested in dating or not. . . and I stand firmly on the side that says, no, you shouldn't. You can reject someone for any reason and if they don't accept that, that's their problem, not yours. Yeah, it's better if you are nice about it, especially if it's someone you know who you already have a platonic relationship with (someone just coming out of nowhere, it really depends on how they do that, because creepy is creepy and some people go for that vibe for some reason).

Yes, Aisha's potential dating pool is probably smaller than a lot of people, but you know what? It exists. Aisha should focus attention on people who are actually interested within that pool, not complain about those who aren't. It would be a pretty bad relationship anyway if one person in it didn't want to be in it. Yeah, maybe it's hard, but I get the idea, dating is hard. Full stop.