Talk:Cameron Levy/@comment-34163871-20180317204644/@comment-36277500-20190122105913

I'm also curious, but I'd rather ask if Cameron WANTS to be considered as guy or girl.

And, before someone throw me onto the bus for transphobia: I was in Cameron's shoes once, so don't lynch me.

In my high school I was bullied and eventually molested by bunch of stupid boys. The guy who started abuse was son pf a retired principal, so teachers did nothing to defend me, or even started to blaming ME for this. Eventually, after they started to threat me that they would rape me, I attempted to commit suicide, what stopped abuse. I avoided the worst fate for every woman, however I was traumatized for more than 10 years.

To drive away my womanhood, I used to wear breast binders or bondages, and tent-like clothes; I cut my hair very short. And, I admit that I considered changing my gender, but after some trials I resigned (disadvantages of male sex/gender were more unbearable to me than female's one). I just wanted to be sexless and genderless. And being considered as a woman was painful for me. I was happy when someone mistook me as a young boy.

Eventually, I came to understand that NOT the whole world is consisted of sexual abusers who would rape me in the very day in front of my acquaintances and friends - only because I look even a bit feminine. So I came ot from my shell and admitted that I'm a woman. Because I stopped feeling threatened.

So... JJammer875751, hear me out, because I mean no harm. I know that unwanted identifying someone's gender may be paintful. But for the others not knowing the someone's gender is painful too.

It's biological mechanism. For an animal, it's sometimes life and death issue if another animal is the opposite gender (they mate) or the same (they fight or concur). Of course, in animal wolrd there are homosexuals, but it doesn't make this issue less significant for them (though the results are altered). Both hetero- and homosexual animals need to know the other animal gender (mostly by the fragrance, sometimes by the looks).

I know that humans are more intelligent than the other animal species. But still we share the same instinct forcing us to know the other's gender, and not knowing it makes us feel threatened (as much agender people are threatened by identifying their gender by others). It's just a biological mechanism, not a purposeful wanting to harm anyone.

JJammer875751, you speak about transsexual people. In my workplace there was a trannsexual person, born woman and operated into a man. But still, HE considers himself as a MAN. Most transsexual people has strong gender identification - though opposite to their birth gender - it's still binar.

And the last thing... Love interest eventually comes to sexual interest. Love may be platonic, but desire forces us to decide that we are men or women, or at least consider it - I'm saying it from my own experience. If Cameron and Aiden ended as a couple, they would eventualy get to the point when love is accompanied with desire. And that would be the time of deciding...